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How to date a porn star

In terms of how to date a porn star, you can use a lot of the core Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp) approach…

If you’re new to my blog, Love Systems is the secret technique men are using today to attract and date beautiful women. It’s been scientifically proven and peer-reviewed, and is based on female psychology and social dynamics.

(To get an idea of how Love Systems works, head on over to the Magic Bullets page – you can download free chapters there. Magic Bullets is my introductory book that gives an overview of the Love Systems approach so you can try it out for yourself, tonight. Or just watch video of Love Systems on Dr Phil, or demonstrating pickup techniques in bars, clubs, and coffee shops on the Pickup Artist YouTube Channel.

OK, now that that’s out of the way….

I’ve been getting a lot of questions about how to pick up and date porn stars specifically, so I thought I’d just write up a full blog post. Here are my best tips for how to date a porn star:

Don’t ask her about porn

Do NOT play therapist. Yes, some porn stars come from broken homes, were abused, etc. I’ve never seen a survey on this but in my experience, most aren’t, and will resent you if you act like they are damaged goods. Most porn stars I know like their job – it’s still work, but it’s decently paid, and they don’t have to work that much. If they do have other issues, they’re probably not datable anyway, and even if you wanted to go there, playing therapist will NOT help you. My downloadable ebook, Magic Bullets (you can download free chapters from that page) goes into more detail on this.

In that vein, do NOT play tourist either. Most guys will ask questions like “what’s it like to be a porn star” that they’ve been asked a million times. I don’t care how curious you are – any question you want to know is something she’s been asked before. She has a life outside of work, and you’ll do a lot better if you focus on that. Once you’ve been sleeping with her, you can ask anything you want.

Porn stars are just (hot) women

They’re not as hard to pick up as you might think (especially if you read how many emails I get about this). It’s harder to find the right places to meet them than it is to seduce them once you’re there (provided you have good game to begin with…if you’re not consistently picking up regular girls, get good at that first). Between the judgmental guys and the guys who just want to “save them” and the guys who treat them as one-dimensional sex objects, there’s a lot of room to get her interest by just being cool and relatively normal.

No porn star pictures herself as being a porn star for their whole lives. They all have had some idea of what they really want to do “after” (realistic or not). Use future projection (from Magic Bullets) to situate yourself in her reality and build a connection. Be non-judgmental and non-jealous. This is good advice in general, but especially around porn girls. Don’t be judgmentally anti-judgmental either.

Porn Stars are flaky

Don’t rely on dates. Get them home the same night you meet them, or run a lot of text game until you meet up with them again, but don’t do the call-on-Wednesday-to-make-plans-for-drinks-on-Friday thing.

Some pornstar stereotypes are true…

Most pornstars, to confirm a stereotype, are not that bright. A few aren’t and will resent being thought of as dumb. Keep the conversation light and focused on things like popular culture, music, entertainment, and so on, until you get a sense of what you’re dealing with.

Porn stars also like to party. Almost all porn girls do some sort of drugs. I don’t do coke, but if you do, that’s a sure ticket to getting her home & happy.

Be normal about her job

Don’t assume that what they do on film is what they want to do on a first date. Now, every porn star I’ve been with has been kinky…don’t be too boring either. But she’s dated off-camera before, and has ideas on how that should go. She may sleep with you on the first date, but save the 4-girls-on-1-guy and the whips-and-chains for later.

In that vein, show that you have basic idea of what goes on in her life. Most people in “the business” date other people in the business because they think (or experience has shown) that those people are best able to understand and relate to them. Without contradicting any of the advice above about not playing tourist or being her therapist, have a basic idea of how the industry works. (not from porn sites or anti-porn activists…read a couple blogs from people actually in the industry)

Do NOT be a fan

You’ve never seen her movies. I don’t care if you have. You haven’t. You don’t hate her work or have a problem with it, you do enjoy porn once in a while, but you’re not up to date up on who has filmed what recently, who is up for awards at the AVN, and you definitely are not familiar with any aspect of her work. Trust me.


I was just thinking…this would be the most fun job in the world. Inventing porn star names. Kind of like the adult equivalent of whoever it is who invents names of colors. Have you ever been to a paint store and noticed 30,000 different names for slightly different shades of yellow? Eastern sunrise? Morning mist? Daisy yellow? Ocean sand? I wonder if I could slip a “puke stain” in there. Hi, I’d like my kid’s bedroom painted puke stain yellow, please. Thank you.

-Nick Savoy

Comments

  1. So what would your porn star name be? Mine would def be “Rokk Hard”.

    The ones you’ve met, have they been freaky in bed or just normal?

    - Rokker

  2. Anonymous says:

    Maybe a post more detailed about Breakthrough Comfort? I know it’s a product but doesn’t mean you can’t type out some points about it.

    -JS

  3. There’s no Breakthrough Comfort product, yet. I give a quick overview of it in Magic Bullets, Chapter 8. Future and Sinn are the experts on it though.

  4. Tenmagnet says:

    My porn name (First Pet + Street I grew up in) is Big Guy Pine… I had a guinea pig that I thought was a hamster, and I named him Big Guy.

  5. Anonymous says:

    Interesting, I like learning about new aspects of the world like this. Maybe get more detailed about their psychology sometimes, I mean technically almost 100% of these girls have had pretty messed up backgrounds. Also, what’s sex like with them?

  6. Anonymous says:

    They sound a lot like strippers, any differences you’ve noticed?

  7. Anonymous says:

    Christ, not ‘jugging’(read j-u-d-g-i-n-g), but learn to spell… gracious. And syntax is important as well.

  8. I am in ohio.ware can i meet one at.and how do you get her a lone to talk to her

  9. Anonymous says:

    Porn stars are the bomb, i've had a couple of them in belgium. Where can i hook up with one in california?

  10. They sound a lot like strippers, any differences you've noticed?

  11. Anonymous says:

    Mine would be Slurpy Seconds. I blow the whole creampie…coconut style.

  12. Anonymous says:

    I'm 34 and she just turned 21 and no friends of mine can and will understand this, so I'm asking both of you for help pls.
    I met this pornstar and we hit it off and had done the deed a few times already. She said she has trust issues and have been fucked over with prev relationships (typical wealthy assholes)but she opened up to me considerably to the point where I actually met her family, we have so much in common and connected emotionally in levels. The moment we got to know each other more, she brings up her traditional upbringing and requested that I give her space because she only does this to men she has a relationship with , which I totally respected. I stayed on my side of the bed and in a few minutes she wanted me to just hold her and keep her warm in which I obliged to do. I'm a sex freak but I the emotion during those few hours holding each other was more worth than the sex we had. I totally support her career, and as much of a hopeless romantic we both are regardless on how passionate she is working in the industry we still connected. The thing that concerns me a tad is she told me not to think we're dating but wants to make plans to spend more time with me and make plans with me.I don't know what to do,regardless of the stuff she has gone through, I actually told her straight out that I will never leave her side and always be there for her. I can actually picture myself marrying her and no its not my infatuation with a pornstar. Friends told me she may just be using me, (but she makes more than I do),Don't know what to do. You stated not to overdo it by texting her all the time but she does text me every night and morning, and we call each other randomly. I don't want to turn her off, bore her but although I know she's an independent woman, I want to stand by her side and hope she can with me. Any tips/advice on how to even get her to think on a long term committed relationshop with me although I'm not in the industry. How do I keep her interested and have her trust me to the point of mutual thoughts on long term with me also? Please, it's driving me crazy and knowing her true self regardless of the issues, I'm falling for her, she made me even stronger and reignited my own dreams. Thank you for the time.

  13. im dating a women called cammila jayne quance what should i do she is amazing and her website is on the internet im gonna fuk her all NIGHT

  14. Anonymous says:

    "I give her space because she only does this to men she has a relationship with.." Never put a woman on a pedestal! The more you do the more she'll loose attraction for you=more hugs less sex! If you wanna have sex tell her, don't be softy; if she refuses get it somewhere else! She is not the only girl in the world!
    "I actually told her straight out that I will never leave her side and always be there for her”. Are you high?!? In this way you'll become a provider, a friend, and you donna wanna be in that road my friend!
    Make her chase you it is the only way to keep her interested in you, make her investing in you, put yourself on higher value then hers, show her your un neediness, no matter how much you are involved emotionally, be a man! Make yourself busy do not reply to her constantly, so you do not become a habit for her! Lose your libido for her and find something unattractive in her body/personality. In this way she'll be coming more closed to you, do not follow for her shit tests/manipulations.Watch Spread 2009 with Kutcher so you'll know that when she asked you for space, your gal was shit testing your nice guy personality! Never fall for that! Do not be focus only to her, flirt with other girls while you are out with her, this will keep her emotionally involved with you. So if you wanna have her invested in you be a bad boy without being a jerk!

  15. Anonymous says:

    I was picked up by a porn star. Before I knew it I met her son and brought her home to meet my family. I would never have approached her even though she is smoking hot. She approached me simply because I exuded confident even though I just happened to be having a drink with my dad at a restaurant. We have the most amazing sex life AND she doesn't hesitate to make me breakfast every morning before I head to the office. Forget her day job. Other than her professional career she will never cheat on you and you will be have the best relationship any realistic person can hope for in life.

  16. I just find woman in the adult industry fascinating. They seem to be down to earth. Would like to meet one just to have a casual conversation.

  17. Do NOT be a fan. That’s a the key here. This rule will be the make or break here. If she knows you obsess over her and watch her stuff, then the attraction level has just gone down. You are not put in “fan category”. Bad news.

  18. I met Bree Olson in a bar in Tokyo of all places. I was after her friend, and the guy I was drinking with was newly in a relationship and didn’t want to ruin it.

    So it turned into her trying desperately to get my friend into the toilet at the Karaoke place (she’d already force-blown him in a restaurant) and then, after repeated, polite “no thank yous” from my friend, she got all stroppy and began complaining about Japanese women. And then it devolved to blacks in America… Swearing her head off. It was so so soooooo ugly to watch her lose it. Racist as they come.

    I actually still have video footage of her rapping her bitterness over a song. She’s looking right into the camera and trying to pose.

    Girl needs a hug. And maybe some therapy.

  19. Sharron McAdams says:

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on beautiful women.
    Regards

  20. Sharpie PUA says:

    If there’s 1 thing about love systems guys is that they always seems to pull the most desirable women. Case in point, my man LS Fader. He’s the best on stripper game.

  21. Hey, so they (pornstars) have sex on camera. The mistake people make is they forget to seperate the pornstar from the person. Dating a pornstar is not much different from dating a normal person. Act friendly don’t invade her space and see what happens. Don’t get all ‘Docter Phil’ on her or she’ll feel you are trying to judge her. Everyone’s had history which won’t look all pretty. Just try to see what you have in common so you see where it goes. Leave a ‘window’ open for her by giving her space. If you smother her she’ll feel threatened. Sex should be her choice and decision. Make love to her like a normal girl and don’t try to use like the movies she’s in. Try to make her feel as comfortable as possible with you

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