These aren’t newbie mistakes like not dealing with your approach anxiety that I covered in my how to get women article. These are once get past those a bit.
Failure to Escalate – For guys that are used to getting blown out, it can be a great feeling to be able to approach a beautiful women who other men are scared to talk to and have a great, fun, conversation for 20 minutes. Enjoy that a few times and then buckle down; we have a job to do here. Keep pushing forward emotionally, logistically, and especially physically. If you’re not touching her (socially) within a minute or two of meeting her, you’re doing something wrong.
Not being enough of a challenge – This is also natural for men who didn’t have much luck with women before they started learning Love Systems. As a newbie, you’re doing all of these things to attract beautiful women. When you start to get good, a lot of these things are overkill. The better you get, the more you should be focusing on qualification instead of attraction. (Google the Love Systems Triad if you’re not 100% familiar with these terms.
Sexualization – Whether you want her as a Friend with Benefit or for a Long Term Relationship, your intermediate goal is to start a sexual relationship with her. The guy who is sleeping with her has a much better chance of being her boyfriend (if that’s what he wants and if he knows what he’s doing) than the guy who is “dating and waiting”. Be a man. Express your desires. Women expect this from alpha males.
Intermediate sticking points vary a lot more than newbie sticking points. But if you’re beyond the newbie stage and you’d still like to get better, hopefully these will help!
Check out my full PUA blog for more advice on overcoming sticking points.
Great post! Plse do more intermediate & advanced posts!