Understanding frames, framing, and reframing is crucial. Jon Sinn (a former PUA) called the interview he did with me on framing “the most important topic we’ll ever cover.” I don’t know if I 100% agree – I think the interviews on female psychology, on how to be an alpha male and advanced attraction:push/pull are equally important – but it’s definitely up there. If you can’t use framing and re-framing, you probably can’t get a 9 or a 10.
So, naturally, framing and reframing occupied a lot of the agenda for the Advanced Bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion last weekend. I was in the middle of giving some examples of re-framing when Future (who was co-instructing with me) brought up a dialogue snippet he’d overheard from star Love Systems instructor Venture. It went something like this (and no, I don’t know what Venture said that made the girl call him an asshole to begin with):
GIRL: You’re a fucking asshole!
VENTURE: Wait, I love this game! Umm…ummm…you’re a fucking bitch! [smiling]
Simple and powerful. Apparently he slept with her that night. If you don’t see what’s going on here, listen to the interview on frame control.
Side note – giving a definition of frames and then giving a high-quality example of re-framing used to be a standard question on the Love Systems instructor interview (part of the new instructor application process). I haven’t asked that one in a while – ever since Stryker, during his interview, started answering the question before I’d even finished asking it. I don’t blame him for asking around about the interview – I’d have done the same thing – but it made me change it all up.