I started learning techniques from pick up artists after having read 3 books including Magic Bullets. At the time I was living in Los Angeles and as many people can tell you it’s not a place for nice guys to have real success with the ladies. I was used to having it easy in the South and the West coast presented a unique set of challenges.
The first thing I learned was that I was placing entirely too much emphasis on the women I was interested in. I also hadn’t really made it clear to myself what exactly where the qualities I desired in a woman, which a Pickup artist had coached me to do. Once I did that, I noticed my expectations were quite high and many women in LA really didn’t make the cut. I reminded myself that their beauty was their only weapon against me and that I had at my disposable much more to offer even though I wasn’t a celebrity or wealthy.
As I met women, I learned to be fun and sort of aloof to their opinion and just trusted myself to make the decisions on what was fun or not. I rarely invited a girl on a date and mostly just informed then when I was going to do something fun. It worked like a charm and before long, I had enough lady friends to keep me busy, but no one girl ever really perked my interest beyond fun.
I moved to Houston a few years later for family and work and soon felt the void of beautiful women around me, but I noticed women were more genuine and less interested in who I knew and how much I made. My expectations remained high and even though I rarely saw the level of gorgeousness women I had in LA, I was having success getting a better pool of “quality” girls that often were 7′s, 8′s and a few 9′s.
Since I had turned my focus to my own passions, I no longer was chasing women like I had before. I was beginning to think I might stay single and was accepting the fact that having fun with women was just that and nothing more. That’s when it hit me and just like I had heard from others, “when you’re not looking” is when I found someone that blew me away. A stunning 21 year old that attended our county political convention had caught my eye. I followed my training and made my interest seem very casual rather than get googlie-eyed. Her and I had a mutual acquaintance so I asked him about her and I quickly learned she was in a long relationship. Well I’m not the guy to steal a girl, so I didn’t pursue exchanging phone numbers or try to make plans. I did know that we would see each other again and that our second meeting might give me better insight. One thing was for sure, I had never seen a more fascinating face and I was looking forward to seeing her again.
A month later she got my number from someone and called me to attend a political event, but I had to politely decline. I did get the hint that she had gone out of her way to call me. I began to suspect I had drawn her interest but I didn’t take the bait.
At our state convention a few months later, her and I were a part of the smaller district gatherings because we lived only 5 miles away. What happened next I would have never caught on to had I not been a student of Love Systems. She went with me everywhere and helped me even win an elected position. I remembered proximity alerts and how women don’t just end up getting near you for no reason at all. She definitely had gone out of her way to be close to me, and even though her boyfriend wasn’t at the convention, he was picking her up and dropping her off. Our friendship was crossing the line and I continued to build tension. The last day of the convention, her and I snuck off from our group and went to a secluded section of the large auditorium to hear Ron Paul’s speech. If we were sitting any closer, she would have been in my lap. Had I been my old impulsive self, I would have gone in for the kiss, but I resisted and built even more tension, rewarding her with casual touching on the shoulder and arm and whispering in her ear that worked perfectly since we were in a loud event.
The next night following the end of the convention, I asked her to meet with me at a diner to talk. I wanted to get to see if she really was in a happy relationship and if we were just friends or if my instincts were right and there was something more. To my surprise, she had ended her relationship with her boyfriend and that’s when I knew I was in. My patience and persistence had paid off! She’s absolutely head over heels for me and guys, I landed a real keeper. The beauty of it was that I was just being myself, I didn’t mislead or misrepresent who I was. I just knew how to build that attraction and close the deal. It was a gamble perhaps, I had mostly learned to be a bit hard to get, but I didn’t go that route this time and she actually likes me just as I am.
Whether a guy is looking to improve his game with fascinating women, or a rookie learning to approach, or like me looking for something more substantive without sacrificing beauty, the art of PUA should be something a guy must learn. Women won’t teach you how to do this and most guys aren’t around skilled PUA’s to know what they’re missing.
It’s been 6 months since I met her and I can tell you it’s an incredible ride. Don’t miss your opportunity to meet someone special because you never learned how to play the game gentlemen.
We are creatures of our own destiny, what will you make of yours?